Your Mental Health Is Key To Your Mental Wealth

A few months ago I published an article on changing your mindset and it bears repeating in these challenging times, especially since we are in Mental Health month.

We all have a radio playing in our heads. But I have to ask…are you tuned to the right station?

Too many of us are tuned to the wrong station. We hear negative voices fueled by fear, uncertainty or worry for the future. We self-talk ourselves out of things instead of the opposite.

The negative voices we hear are the source of most of our fears and anxieties. These voices tell us, “You’re not smart, not capable, or you should know better.”

These voices hold us back from being bold, taking more risks, asking for what we want, or simply believing we can make positive changes in our life.

It can be hard defining who’s doing the talking until you consider the source. You may be hearing your parents, teachers, well-meaning friends, or bosses who thought they knew what was good for you.

Our minds are tricksters, convincing us things are real when it’s really our imaginations on overdrive. We fear the worst, and we create drama in our lives to match our feelings. This justifies our behavior, quantifies our circumstances, and supports buying into the stories we tell ourselves.

Negative thoughts manifest as:

  • Frantic impatience
  • Utter exhaustion
  • Misunderstanding
  • Emotional paralysis
  • Shame
  • Defeat
  • Feeling out of control
  • Confusion
  • Overwhelm
  • Victimization

The truth is many are invested in staying in stuck places. They get attention when they complain, or when they feel that circumstances are working against them. It gives an excuse to give in, give up, or simply put up with whatever it is that’s not working. I’m sure you know people like that.

The truth is, if we never take risks or fail to get what we want, we can always blame it on circumstances. We can ignore the signals that demand we make different choices.


In a recent study, researchers at University College London found that repetitive negative thinking is linked to cognitive decline, and a greater risk of dementia. Depression and anxiety are root causes of mental decline in people 55 and over.

Let’s face it. During the last two years there has been a lot of negative thinking for good reasons, but it doesn’t help us to move forward.

The stress of continual bad news cycles has kept worry levels high. Even those who are vaccinated and double boosted are still coming down with the virus. Keeping ourselves safe has been a major priority for all of us to avoid the dire circumstances that it could kill us or our loved ones. It’s hard to be positive under such circumstances, but we have to find the bright spots because our mental health is key to our mental wealth.

In Dr. Martin Seligman’s book Learned Optimism, he tells the story of his own depression and how he began to recognize and challenge pessimistic thinking to develop more positive behaviors. He believed that in normal circumstances, depression is learned helplessness, and by developing optimism you can consciously challenge your negative self.


Less than 2% of the world’s population makes a conscious effort to change. Most of the time change happens by circumstance.

So how do you identify the stories that are holding you back and train yourself to be more positive? How do you tune into the mindset that propels you forward?

Simply put. We must question our thinking, and be willing to challenge the negativity with a simple question. Is it true? You may think your negative thinking is true, but do you have evidence of that, or is simply you draining your mental bank account with an overdrawn sense of worthlessness?

We have more control over our minds than we think we do!

Change has been the biggest driver of my life, whether I invited it in or not! Through several decades of unsparing change, I have consistently been challenged to change, and while I may have resisted at times, it has always been clear that the only way through is to figure out how to do life differently – how to think differently.


Change means facing our limitations, our feelings of inadequacy, and our belief that we may not be good enough. It means challenging a state of mind that impacts the quality of our life.

To change, you must let go of limited thinking, and confront the behaviors that are not serving your best interests. Letting go of what doesn’t serve you is your journey of discovery.

We spend our lives looking for answers, but what if you spent your life looking for the right questions. What do you think would happen?

“The unexamined life is not worth living.” – Socrates

It takes courage to look yourself in the mirror and ask:

  • What do I need to do differently?
  • Who do I want to become?
  • What will I need to do to make my life different from what it is today?
  • What is the best way forward?
  • Where do I stand in my own way?
  • What do I need to change to live the life I imagine I want for myself?
  • What does a good life look like?

To make changes that stick, you must be prepared to dig deeply and find what matters most to you. You must believe in yourself and be willing to do the work to become the better version of you. You must be invested in your mental bank account.


To transform yourself, you need to be resilient and be willing to endure the discomfort that will occur as part of the change process. You must be willing to take a deep dive into the areas that need to change by asking yourself the questions you may want to avoid.

That’s why I created and developed Transformational Strategies for Success, an online personal development program that is designed to have the greatest impact on developing your mental wealth. By focusing on the key issues that are getting in your way, and forging a new path of clarity and purpose, we start to build a surplus of mind wealth that changes the direction of our career and life.

As I cheerfully tell my clients, “Get comfortable being uncomfortable.” It’s how we change for the better.

When you no longer see the benefits of remaining in your stuck place you are ready to begin an adventure of discovering other choices and other outcomes.

Choice is an option. When you don’t choose, you are making a choice.

Next time you hear a negative voice in your head question its source. Ask yourself who is doing the talking. Is there a familiar sound to that voice? If you can name it, you can change it. Decline the invitation to complain. Decline the invitation to blame. Decline the temptation to just give in, or give up. Tune into a different station!

We are all capable of change. Pay attention to your negative voices. Choose to take another approach. Choose positivity and strengthen your ability to trust yourself. Embrace change and see what happens when you invest in your mental bank account.

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